Starting wedding planning was an intense experience. There are a lot of resources at the modern bride’s disposal, many free and also many with a North American focus.
There are plenty of Australian sites that are geared towards what I call the Fairy Princess Bride (FPB). Many women, or couples, who want that aesthetic for their day are in for great news. Traditional stores magazines and Pinterest are full of ideas for that look! I’m not at all implying that a FPB is a bad thing.
However no matter which way I sliced it, I’ve recognised I will never be a FPB.
I started to look further and found some websites that more appealed to me. A Practical Wedding was mentioned in discussions with friends; I felt this approach was much more my style.
I’m the sort of person who wants a marriage much more than a wedding. Planning this event involved elements of dread.
Everybody is going to be staring at me… all day, taking photos of me doing everything. How do I cope with that when my default setting is to be somewhat understated or ideally ignored? The APW article titled, Your Wedding is not a Show helped me so much. I can’t adequately describe what a comfort it was to my introverted self-conscious self to read and so heavily relate to that.
I started to reframe hesitations and fears to determine what sort of bride I would aim to be. I settled on striking, as pretty felt wildly unattainable and let’s not even start with beautiful. I found that I considered myself to be more of a Striking Practical Bride (SPB).